Good morning Eya, How is family and our lovely boy? I am in dire need of answers and advise from your readers, Its gonna be a long write-up, please bear with me.
I left Nigeria many years ago, and I have been married 5good times, all my exs were found by either family or friends for me, but once we got married (traditionally) and I bring them over here, they will leave me for another person within the space of weeks, (though they came back and asked for forgiveness, which I have forgiven but I couldn't take them back) I felt bad, hated women but my mum kept on pestering for a grandchild et al.
After a while, I met this beautiful young lady online, very
trained, a great cook, neat and honest and I didn't waste time, I wifed her immediately, traditional, white and court, she became pregnant before I brought here but I didn't love her and still don't, we are blessed with triplet 2boys and a girl(7years)
I treat her well, she doesn't lack anything,I help around the house and all, but I noticed that she doesn't like sex, If I don't write an application, beg for it, she won't open up, she creates problem so that we won't do, she has never asked for it, all that interests her is the kids, keeps the house sparkling white and cook all kinds of continental dishes and nothing more...
I have this Nigerian friend, that checks on me during my hearts breaks and all but we were not dating because, she was in a relationship then, after her relationship packed up, we became closer and I'm in love with this woman right from the onset till this moment, and she has fallen deeply in love with me as well, the sex is great, she gives it to me any how and any where I want it.
My wife is a very calm person, I am 100% sure that she is not cheating and that she is fully aware about my relationship with is lady, but she has never asked me about it, her behavior still the same, We have never had sex in 2years and she isn't bothered, My girl sends her our pics, insults her, she neither reply nor ask me about it.
I planted cameras in all corner of my house, she is very joyous, when I'm not there, they play, cook, eat and all but once I'm back, everyone becomes calm, that means she feels caged when I'm there, she isn't happy with me, right?
Many people will hate me once I mention this divorce thing, the only person that hates my wife is my girl friend, my friends and family loves and adores her but I'm not happy been with her.
Do you guys thinks my wife loves me?
Why doesn't all these bother her?
Is it a wise decision to stay in an unhappy marriage?
If I divorce her, will my kids be understandable when they grow up?
Do I elope with my girl to another city and just visit my kids?
Please help a brother..
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Of all the penetration I connect gained, the maximum cap is the wisdom that time and health are two indispensable money that we once in a blue moon distinguish or grasp until they connect been nadir. As with health, time is the raw material of life. You can use it judiciously, consume it or settled kill it.
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Hi Aunty Eya and my lovely WC readers,pls I want to know you peoples opinion on this matter,I'm a mother of two expecting the third,my hubby says no house help, but one of his brothers lives with us, he's in his early 20's and he does help out but there are some chores I don't like him to do for me, like bathing my girls.
I really need a house help(female), but, he says he doesn't want peoples wahala, that any time our kids are on holiday we will travell to his people, who honestly I can say do take good care of us too. and honestly I love going to his people cos they love me and my kids very much as if I'm their child.
my question is,can being apart from hubby for some time destroy/weaken our marriage, or make it stronger? or, should I insist on bringing a house help and stay with him knowing fully well he dislikes house help,which one is better.This article is (c) Copyright - All rights reserved www.wivestownhallconnection.com
