1) Remember that love is a verb. Choose to love your spouse, no matter what the situation is.
2) Communicate even if it results in an argument. Choose a private place and a time when you can discuss your issues without interruptions.
3) Outlaw any name calling, references to past history, and cheap shots during the argument. Stick to the issue at hand.
4) Listen to your spouse attentively without interruption. Pay attention to the emotions that lie behind the words and body language. Do not try to change those feelings or offer solutions, just validate them by listening.
5) Don't go to bed angry at each other. Call a truce before bedtime. Most things look better in the morning.
6) Take action. Do something every day that shows your love for your spouse even if you don't feel love. Love has a funny way of creeping back into the picture.
Australian lead singer RICKI-LEE COULTER has just posted this send off on social media swallow with this photo, from today's 'SUNDAY Concoct magazine (the key in mag which comes with 'The Sunday Telegraph'), as part of the appeal start she did with the magazine:
I'm nicely greet in my skin, I continually bolt been - and I've continually tried to project that to out of the ordinary women. In the function of greet in your skin isn't about being perfect, to the same degree nobody's perfect! It's about being knowledge of your supposed 'imperfections' and 'flaws' - embracing your body and loving yourself queasy regardless! Women will continually bolt a love-hate relationship with their bodies, it's just human nature...but happiness is the ceiling beautiful thing in the world and it works wonders for everyone! At the same time as a name is full of life and happiness and has a great turn - that is so attractive! I think subsequent to you are happy in your life, you bolt this radiance and this sunny that doesn't' come from any unguent or any section of hours in the gym and it routinely doesn't come from the number on the scales or the tag of your chinos. And I upright want that every woman finds that happiness in their lives. xxxHUGE thank you to the beautifully skillful workforce at Sunday Concoct for a beautiful start and an tight and blunt trial "
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THE PRINCESS AND THE PEA
What time upon a time... here was a prince who, previously roaming the land penetrating for a spouse, returned to his castle and told his discontented parents that he had been helpless to find a bride.
Now, this young man was urbane to influence, and he had not been fine hard at it with any of the talented young ladies he had met on his arrangements. He was looking for a bride who was not only beautiful, but furthermore well-born, with the ability and protocol rigid only in persons of talented birth and highest.
One twilight, in the sphere of a burly storm that had cursorily blown up, a active knocking was heard at the castle door. The prince's blood relation sent a servant to find out who was here. Honor on the steps, lit by flashes of lightning, in the serious rain, was a young lady. "I'M A PRINCESS," she assumed,"
seeking swathe for for my part and my buzz. My method has smashed down and the coachman can't repair it till tomorrow."
In the meantime, the prince's close relative had appeared to pleasant the guest. She stared unhelpfully at the girl's misty wet garments, and resolute to find out if she actually was of muted birth.
"SWILL A SOFT SOFT BED IN THE INDIGO PLOT," she assumed, "I'LL COME FOR MY PART AND MAKE CONCLUSIVE EVERYTHING IS IN ORDER." She told the servants to lay a cloud of soft quilts on top of the mattress, and under the mattress she hid a pea. Hence she showed the girl to her room. The rain raid down all night and lightning speckled the sky. In the hours of daylight, the prince's close relative asked her guest: "DID YOU SLEEP WELL? WAS THE BED COMFORTABLE?" The girl deferentially replied:
"LT WAS A LOVELY SOFT BED, SO SOFT THAT I MIGHT FEEL EVERYTHING HARD UNDER THE MATTRESS. THIS HOURS OF DAYLIGHT, I OPEN IT WAS A PEA. IT KEPT ME CONSCIOUS ALL NIGHT!" The prince's close relative on hand her apologies, up to that time rushlng of to her son.
"A real princess at last! Simply think! She might feel the pea I hid under the mattress! Now, only a well-born lady might do that!
The prince had last but not least rigid the bride of his dreams. After the celebratory, the pea was positioned inside a gold and rock box and exhibite i n the castle museum.
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She is not leaving to be at home all the time waiting for you to come back to her. But if you are a home bird who loves his sports meeting or shield you shoulder to score that she is not leaving to be dissatisfied at you in order to turn it over. Never let her get expeditious of you, make fringe that you get the best out of her and all the situations while at the end of the day you are the one work the squeezing.
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Larry Elrod is a writer for the Seduction Track Map, a site that teaches men all over the world about pick up artist techniques and pick up lines to get girls.
"WHEN ANY SOCIETY SAYS THAT I CANNOT MARRY A CERTAIN PERSON, THAT SOCIETY HAS CUT OFF A SEGMENT OFF MY FREEDOM, Rev. Martin Luther King Jr., 1958."I AM STILL NOT A POLITICAL PERSON, BUT I AM PROUD THAT RICHARD'S AND MY NAME IS ON A COURT CASE THAT CAN HELP REINFORCE THE LOVE, THE COMMITMENT, THE FAIRNESS, AND THE FAMILY THAT SO MANY PEOPLE, BLACK OR WHITE, YOUNG OR OLD, GAY OR STRAIGHT SEEK IN LIFE. I SUPPORT THE FREEDOM TO MARRY FOR ALL. THAT'S WHAT LOVING, AND LOVING, ARE ALL ABOUT. Mildred's "Loving for All" statement, 6/12/07 - Source: Freedomtomarry.orgIt seems appropriate on Valentine's Day to celebrate the life and marriage of Richard and Mildred Loving. The Lovings were two people who never set out to change the law, nor were they activists in any way. They were just two crazy kids in love who wanted to get married. "We both thought about other people," Richard Loving said in an interview with LIFE magazine in 1966, "but we are not doing it just because somebody had to do it and we wanted to be the ones. We are doing it for us."The year was 1958; Eisenhower was midway through his second term in office, Elvis was in the army, Michael Jackson would be born in August, the European Economic Community was founded, 14-year-old Bobby Fischer wins the United States Chess Championship. Artists like Jerry Lee Lewis, Chuck Berry, Bobby Darin, Connie Francis, the Everly Brothers and Ricky Nelson were climbing the charts. On the Road by Jack Kerouac had been published the year before. In February Ruth Carol Taylor was the first African American woman hired as a flight attendant. It was the twilight of the post-World War II era before the explosion of the Swinging Sixties.On June 2, 1958, Richard Loving (1933 - 1975), who was white, and his part-black, part-Cherokee fianc'ee Mildred Jeter (1939 - 2008) travelled from Virginia to Washington, D.C. to be married. It was a shot-gun wedding, Mildred, 18 years old was pregnant. The young couple had known each other since she was 11 and he was 18 but it wasn't until years later that their friendship turned to romance. No one in Caroline County, VA thought it was odd. The area was known for friendly relations between the two races, many people were clearly of mixed race. Ebony Magazine in an article published in 1967 reported that black "youngsters easily passed for white in neighboring towns."Five weeks after their wedding, the newlyweds were in bed in their house on the morning of July 11, 1958, when the county sheriff and two deputies, acting on an anonymous tip, burst into their bedroom and shined flashlights into their eyes. A threatening voice demanded, "Who is this woman you're sleeping with?" Mildred replied, "I'm his wife."Richard then pointed to the marriage certificate that hung on the bedroom wall. The sheriff replied with a sneer, "That's no good here."The couple was arrested, and after several nights in jail, they pled guilty to violating the Virginia law called "The Racial Integrity Act." The indictment read "cohabiting as man and wife, against the peace and dignity of the Commonwealth." At the time, interracial marriage was still illegal in 24 states, including Virginia. The Virginia law had been on the books since 1662, adopted a year after Maryland enacted the first statute against interracial marriage. At one time, 38 states had similar laws against miscegenation. It wasn't until 1948 that the California Supreme Court became one of the first to overturn the law in their state. To avoid a jail sentence, the Lovings' agreed to leave the state; they could return to Virginia, but not at the same time, for a period of 25 years. They paid the court fine of 36.29 each. Living in exile in D.C. with their three children, the Lovings' missed their families, friends, and their life in the familiar surroundings of the Virginia hills. In 1963, Mildred wrote a letter to the then Attorney General Robert F. Kennedy asking for help. He wrote her back suggesting she get in touch with the American Civil Liberties Union."Richard Loving kissing wife Mildred as he arrives home from work, King and Queen County, Va. April 1965 ((c) Estate of Grey Villet)"Two lawyers from the ACLU, Bernard S. Cohen and Philip J. Hirschkop, took the case. Hirschkop was only two years out of law school at the time. Despite their inexperience, they were aware of the challenges they faced at a time when many Americans were still vehement about segregation and maintaining the "purity of the races." A handful of similar cases to the Lovings had come up before in other states and had crashed and burned. However, the 1964 Civil Rights Act was beginning to change all that. The first problem the two lawyers faced was that the Lovings had pleaded guilty and therefore had no right to an appeal. So Cohen filed a motion to vacate the judgment on the Lovings' original conviction and set aside the sentence. Local Judge Leon Bazile denied the motion, stating, "Almighty God created the races white, black, yellow, Malay and red, and he placed them on separate continents. And but for the interference with his arrangement there would be no cause for such marriages. The fact that he separated the races shows that he did not intend for the races to mix." After the Virginia Supreme Court responded with similarly antiquated and racist sentiments, Cohen and Hirschkop seized the opportunity to take the case to the U.S. Supreme Court.Although the odds of getting a case heard by the Court were slim, Cohen and Hirschkop learned that Loving v. Virginia would be heard on April 10, 1967. In oral arguments, the State compared anti-miscegenation statutes to the right to prohibit incest, polygamy, and underage marriage, claiming that children are victims in an interracial marriage. Hirschkop argued that laws must treat each citizen equally, and that "when a law is based on race, it is immediately suspect and the burden is shifted to the state to show there is a compelling interest to have that sort of racial differentiation." And though the Lovings chose not to attend, Cohen may have made the most compelling case by relaying to Chief Justice Warren and his fellow judges Richard's simple message: "Tell the court that I love my wife, and it is unfair that I can't live with her in Virginia."After a two-month wait, the U.S. Supreme Court ruled unanimously in favor of the Lovings on June 12, 1967, citing that Virginia's law violated the 14th Amendment to the United States Constitution. This precedent-setting decision resulted in 16 states being ordered to overturn their bans on interracial marriage. Alabama was the last holdout, finally repealing its anti-miscegenation law in 2000. After the ruling, Richard told EBONY magazine, "For the first time, I could put my arm around her and publicly call her my wife." June 12 has become known as Loving Day, an unofficial holiday with events around the country to mark the advances of mixed-raced couples. Unfortunately Richard and Mildred Loving didn't have long to celebrate their landmark victory. Richard was killed in 1975 when a drunk driver hit their car. He was 41. Mildred died of pneumonia in 2008, a year after the 40th anniversary of the Supreme Court decision. She was 68. Although she and the sheriff who had arrested them lived in the same Virginia town for decades, they never exchanged a single word. Mildred never thought she had done anything extraordinary. "It wasn't my doing," she told the Associated Press in 2007. "It was God's work." Tonight HBO will honor the story of the Lovings with a documentary entitled "The Loving Story." And the International Center of Photography in New York City has an exhibit of photographs taken of the couple for LIFE Magazine in 1966. Looking at these photos, it's hard to believe that anyone would want to keep this couple apart but that's exactly what almost happened. According to the Associate Press, there are more than 4 million "mixed marriages" in the United States, and roughly one in seven new marriages are between people of different ethnicities. However, there are still people who object to interracial marriage. The sheriff who arrested the Lovings is against interracial marriage, and just a few years ago a justice of the peace in Louisiana refused to marry an interracial couple because he didn't believe in it. Although we have come a long way in the 45 years since the Lovings took their stand but we still have a long way to go before everyone in this country has an equal right to marriage.http://scandalouswoman.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/default?alt=rss
Rejection comes in two forms: that which has yet to happen, and that which happens. Neither are particularly pleasant, and owing to fear of the latter, we often "auto-reject" before a woman can reject us. Either we don't approach or even try to attract women, or we don't escalate, or we don't pull... and it often comes down to a feeling we have inside of ourselves, a feeling captured perfectly by none other than William Shakespeare: "present fears are less than horrible imaginings." Now, horrible imaginings can be fairly horrible. When a crush of yours rejects you - a girl you've been pining away over for a few weeks or months - it can be devastating. It's happened to me and it sucks. It can send your mind into a cyclone of activity, desperately trying to figure out how to get her back and how to get women. The thing is, she was never yours to begin with. Listen - women are used to being pursued by men who are interested in them. If you don't show your interest and desire, in some way, she'll assume you want to be friends and you won't attract women. And that crush that's been brewing in your mind, all of those fun and romantic things you were planning on doing with her, those will remain in your mind, because you never sac'd up and went for her. All the more reason to go for it sooner, and let the chips fall where they may. Still... as logically as we might think about it, fear of rejection can be a mighty force. It's like an imaginary pair of handcuffs that come out of nowhere right when things are about to get good and make it so that you literally can't do anything. And then you lay in bed wondering where you went wrong. In my own personal experience, and in coaching countless guys, the main thing I've come to realize is that you are probably scared of two things: what other people are going to think, and what the girl is going to think. So fear of rejection is really a two headed dragon that hurts your chance to attract women. If we only cut off the head that breathes fire, as most guys try to do, it will still spew lightening at us with the other. Best to deal with them both, and move on to rescue the princess without fear of what lay behind us. We'll start by considering what others think about rejection. Let's hypothesize for a second - you're about to escalate, maybe kiss her or tell her its time to leave the party. But then you see your friends watching you, or maybe you imagine them watching you. And you think about how big of a loser you're going to seem like if you get rejected and you don't get women. You're afraid to be exposed. What's going to be exposed? Your secret What's your secret? The secret that nearly every guy harbors the one that no one talks about is "I'm bad with women, I can't get women, and I'll do anything to hide it from other people." Want to know something crazy? 99% of the guys out there have this fear. Just realize this, and laugh. Seriously - do you know how many guys think this same thing? There's a reason that there are so many websites and blogs and dating gurus out there... But how can everyone "be bad with women and not get women"? It just doesn't make sense. It's just not true. I've worked with clients who thought they were "bad with women," when all they needed was a push to escalate. They're fixed within an hour. But they didn't realize that before we started working together. This is a deep-deep fear and everyone holds it in. Would you ever tell another guy that you sucked with girls and couldn't attract women? HELL NO. You'd be exposed. So now I want you to realize something: getting rejected is not being exposed. There is nothing to be exposed - it's fake, it's imaginary, and everyone has the same damn fear in their head. I'm just going to tell you right now: no one is watching you getting rejected. You need to realize that everyone is in their own damn head when they are out and trying to get their drinks on, get their game on and get women, and so on. And everyone thinks that everyone else is watching them - but really, they're not. So when you get rejected, people won't even notice. "But Nick, I always watch other guys - that can't be true!" Wrong. You tune in to other guys' success - it's an ego thing - it's confirmation that you suck and that they are pimps... and it's dead wrong. Truth is, the only time other guys will really watch what you are doing is when you succeed and get women, or when you're standing in the same place for an hour, creepily looking at every person who walks by. The casual, fun guy who's in and out of conversations with people isn't showing up on everyone else's radar. In a crowded environment, the only thing that really captures our attention is a major scene. And rejections never go down like that. There's never a major scene. Women quietly start to turn away, and they go back to the conversations. No one paid attention. Think about that. If "being perceived as a player" is high on your list of things to do (I'll admit it it was on mine.. but ultimately it's not a good goal) then you want to continually go for big wins. Because big wins are what get noticed, when you get women. Remember that. No one remembers the loser. The brain just doesn't really store it. Ok, moving on to the second head of this dragon: what she thinks of you, and what she'll tell her friends. One you get this, you're going to laugh at how simple it really all is. We'll start with a little story. Amongst our group of friends, there is an expectation that Christian and I will escalate on girls and try to get women who give us the right signals. The guys know it and our female friends know it. They know that we're being true to what we want - that we're letting our desires lead us. They see us get rejected every now and then - we take a lot of shots- but they're more interested in the times we succeed, and the girls we'll bring their way. Do our female friends begrudge us for being this way? Generally, no, because they know it is in our characters. They generally respect us for taking the shots and trying to attract women, and they know that we'll respect boundaries and not be total asses. So this is the right way to go. What's the wrong way? I was once having dinner with a very hot, blonde female friend, and she was telling me about a mutual acquaintance of ours. Girls like him when they meet him - he's friendly and likes to party - but he also comes across as very gay. We all know he's not, but he just vibes gay when you first meet him. Girls are usually very comfortable with him, as he shows no obvious sexual interest. So on this blonde girl's last birthday, after all the festivities were over, he offered to walk her home, and then he offered to walk her upstairs, and then they went to sleep together... as friends sometimes do when it's late and they're drunk, and the entire time, she'd been thinking "he's a friend with no hidden agenda." He hadn't escalated at all up to this point. No sexual interest, just friendly la-di-da. But once they were in bed, he started touching her and snuggling up in a way that was distinctly not friend-like. It was zero to eighty on the sexual interest scale in the blink of an eye. As she put it, "ewwwwwwwwwww." Basically, every time you don't escalate sooner than later you're either allowing yourself to be put in the friend zone, or you're "playing hard to get". In either case, she knows that you don't have balls and you won't get women. And a man without balls nope not gonna cut it. So just realize that by not escalating you are losing major points. The fear of not escalating should be way higher than the fear of escalation. When you do escalate it signals to her "I am a Man. I take what I want. I can lead". Do you want her to think these things about you? Good. Then escalate and go get women. Now here's where it gets weird: she'll probably deny you. If things are going very well, you escalate a little bit and she denies you the kiss or whatever it is you are trying to do - hold strong, my friend. Later on in the book, we'll talk about ways to deal with tests, to get around them, and to avoid them all together. Good game and ability to get women requires an ability to deal with her tests. So she's just testing you. Testing for what? She wants to know how persistent you are. How you handle failure. She wants to know if her little rejection has the power to make you crumble. She wants to know if you're going to be cool about things and not cause a scene. Now, obviously, use common sense. When I say hold strong, I mean emotionally. Act like nothing happened, continue to game and have fun and just go for it again. From childhood, we idealized the way things work. We thought that when "it's on" she will just accept every advance. And when it's off, she will reject you. So we see rejection as something that indicates "I'm not worthy" when really, it's an essential part of the game! Learn to identify these sticking points and you will be blowing off rejection, and blowing past rejections, in no time flat. Find out more about how to get women today.
