"LONG ENGAGEMENT"
Am Still Wondering How Long A Typical Engagement Should Be.
How Long Is Too Long To Be Engaged Before Marriage? And
Are Long Engagements A Sign That The Wedding Will Never Take Place?
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So guys, does it really matter how long your engaged before marriage?
I think it depends on the couple and what their wishes are, some people like long engagements and others do not...to each their own.
I think it depends on each couple - there is no 'one fits for all ruleBut I think when greater importance should be attached to the significance of being engaged. It's the official committment and should be treated as almost legal.
Am sorry guys, but WHY LONG ENGAGEMENT?Don't get engaged until you are ready to get married. I think it's better to wait longer before getting engaged, than to get engaged early but not start planning the wedding for ages.My fiancee and I had been together for 7 years, i was engaged for few years. When we found out I was pregnant, He was thrilled! He had been involved in every aspect of the pregnancy. As time went on, things got very rough in our relationship, but I was bound and determined to work through it. Unfortunately things dint go well, then he left me soon after my pregnancy. I enjoyed my pregnancy even tho he was not around, it was fun and I don't regret having my child it was the best thing i could have done, I am a great mum and have a great life.
I have to tell you this, there are many women who take the decision of getting engage/married simply because they hope that marriage would change things which is not actually true. There are women who had a clue that their marriages were not meant to be but still went ahead with it anyway. I mean after two years or three either you know that this person is worth spending time with, making plans together or not.
Now the divorce rate has increased greatly and marriage rate obviously decreased. One of the reasons for this is because many people are rushing into marriage for all of the wrong reasons and with the wrong person. Marriage is taken advantage of these days unlike the old days. It is better to wait and make sure the person you are with is really going to be the one you want to spend the rest of your life with.
But think about it... sometimes don't you think people get caught up in the ring and engagement? ALSO....If you get pregnant after said engagement and prior to marriage the chances are even slimmer! On one hand, you have those girls who try to "conquer" a guy and do what other women who have failed, only to find that they themselves fail, no matter how much they do.
On the other hand, you have the simply naive girls who feel that they "love" a guy (though I think it's just physical attraction) but they want to change the guy in terms of personality so that he fits the "man bill" for their dream man when all they couldve done was find someone who already fits their bill.
Yes, to a point Sporah and from experience I can honestly say it's something that you should never do.Women marry men believing that together they will make all their dreams come true and have a loving home and also the romance that was there in the beginning. Men marry women to have a partner that they can count on and talk to and share their homelife with.On my side, i was thinking and plan about any things at a time and don't express many of their ideas, plans, and expectations to him. And definitely i so much believed that with time i will be able to change him mentality, It seems pretty stupid to me now. I mean, why would you want to change someone if you can't accept them for who they are?
I guess maybe it's because they see someone they really want, but there's always that little something about him they figure can be changed/improved....From experience I can honestly say it's something that you should never do....the longest relationships seem to be when both partners accept each other just the way they are....and if there's any changes to be done, it's purely voluntary...not expected.
This reminds me of an old saying "WOMEN MARRY HOPING THEY CAN CHANGE THEIR MAN. MEN MARRY HOPING THEIR WOMAN DOESN'T CHANGE"
I suppose it really depends on how long you have known the person before you become engaged.Really, whatever works for the couple.
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