DATING APPS REVIEWED
Everything THAT'S Unprincipled Plus TINDER - AND Equally YOU Have to BE Deed Relatively
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It was Saturday daylight and I was hungover, laying in bed examination the progress bar on my iPhone: "Installing." This had to be the sixth time I was downloading Tinder.
I hadn't deleted it while I'd had no destiny with it (even then again I didn't); I'd deleted it while I had become untold by it. I would find for myself zoning out and swiping through faces and beside I knew it 20 minutes would go by. That's a influential 20 minutes I may well relay been feat everything flattering like reading a book, writing an article or even approaching a real, live woman. I relay a friend in Manhattan that kills it on Tinder and his strategy is to "like" every girl he sees and as well as sort them out from his matches. You can't claim with domino effect, but for me it took the fun out the app. So in stop press to getting Tinder, I as well downloaded Coffee Meets Bagel and the new kid on the thrust, Hinge. So which one is the best?
TINDER
Tinder is far and made known the supreme popular dating app, so it's separation to relay the widest pool of women to give pleasure to from. But herein misrepresentation Tinder's flaw: By being offered with seemingly unconditional options, every men and women are crippled by the "paradox of substitute" -- the upper options you relay, the less projected you are to cause to a substitute that control be "felon." In addition to, why cause seeing that there's ad infinitum everything overly something like the corner? Tinder is only clever if you're an attractive woman. Clear women hate it, and men hate it while it's undesirable to command yourself to an attractive woman seeing that she has 100 matches to give pleasure to from every day. Very same few men relay the Gosling-like good looks or Tatum-like bravado to command themselves with only carbon copy and photos. At least in real life, I can stand out by being the only one with a lot balls to approach her. Tinder isn't a dating app, it's a soundtrack competition -- everywhere sooner of earning points, your pay attention squirts dopamine seeing that it sees an attractive saying, and you get an ego increase from these extraordinary "matches." If you if truth be told want to meet gang IRL, I'd relay to say Tinder is the extreme material dating app for this.
Coffee MEETS BAGEL
Coffee Meets Bagel solves Tinder's "paradox of substitute" by demonstration you only one woman (called a "bagel") each day at lunchtime. If you think this is too warning, that's while it is -- but by only giving you one woman a day, it forces you to carefully bind your match, reasonably than firm swiping passed away as afterward as you see her feat a duck-face selfie. Afterward you match with a girl, you can stem to chat via the app -- but there's an expiration windowpane, putting challenge on the two of you crazy brood to meet each other. So what's the problem? The problem is CMB's monetization model. If you don't like your bagel that day, you can "see upper bagels" by purchasing ones you like and they'll show up in your support the next day. Equally does this mean for you? All of the attractive women are being bought. The properly women are only separation to be dazed to paying customers, and even if you do last to see her geographically (i.e. for free), as well as she's particular to relay a debris of men that spent credits to buy an e-meeting with her, so she may not see your profile for weeks if not months.
Hinge
Touch of Hinge as the convalesce unite of Tinder and Coffee Meets Bagel, but with a better UI. Featuring in you're dazed 10 women a day and relatives women are extensions of your Facebook social direct (to the 2nd and 3rd degree). This development, as the app describes, you get "no randos" and relay an automatic talking point with any girl you match up with. This as well armaments you with an great big psychological inaugurate while she beforehand "knows" you, vivid social be there for (i.e. that you're not a hiker intruder). Afterward you in concert like each other, the app introduces you and you can chat from give. The only problem with Hinge is that it hasn't reached the galactic appropriateness that Tinder has yet, so you're first-class by the character of your Facebook friends that as well relay Hinge. Why am I telling you this? In the function of you call for investment this article with your hot friends so you can meet upper hot people. If you want to meet upper women in the real world, whatever your goals with the contrasting sex may be, Hinge is the way to go.
Of method there's ad infinitum the other option: you can stop thrashing in the same way as that digital strengthen you call your telephone and if truth be told stem talking to women. I'm absolutely complete with the fear and rejection you're separation to stand up point feat this, but let's saying it, we're the gender that's built for it -- so put down your telephone and go talk to her. And if that doesn't work, use Hinge seeing that you get up up the next day.
(Heb 13, 4b) The marriage bed be kept undefiled
[4b] And the marriage bed be kept undefiled,
(CCC 1662) Marriage is based on the consent of the contracting parties, that is, on their will to give themselves, each to the other, mutually and definitively, in order to live a covenant of faithful and fruitful love. (CCC 1664) Unity, indissolubility, and openness to fertility are essential to marriage. Polygamy is incompatible with the unity of marriage; divorce separates what God has joined together; the refusal of fertility turns married life away from its "supreme gift," the child (GS 50 SS 1). (CCC 2360) Sexuality is ordered to the conjugal love of man and woman. In marriage the physical intimacy of the spouses becomes a sign and pledge of spiritual communion. Marriage bonds between baptized persons are sanctified by the sacrament. (CCC 2361) "Sexuality, by means of which man and woman give themselves to one another through the acts which are proper and exclusive to spouses, is not something simply biological, but concerns the innermost being of the human person as such. It is realized in a truly human way only if it is an integral part of the love by which a man and woman commit themselves totally to one another until death" (FC 11). Tobias got out of bed and said to Sarah, "Sister, get up, and let us pray and implore our Lord that he grant us mercy and safety." So she got up, and they began to pray and implore that they might be kept safe. Tobias began by saying, "Blessed are you, O God of our fathers.... You made Adam, and for him you made his wife Eve as a helper and support. From the two of them the race of mankind has sprung. You said, 'It is not good that the man should be alone; let us make a helper for him like himself.' I now am taking this kinswoman of mine, not because of lust, but with sincerity. Grant that she and I may find mercy and that we may grow old together." and they both said, "Amen, Amen." Then they went to sleep for the night (Tob 8:4-9). (CCC 2362) "The acts in marriage by which the intimate and chaste union of the spouses takes place are noble and honorable; the truly human performance of these acts fosters the self-giving they signify and enriches the spouses in joy and gratitude" (GS 49 SS 2). Sexuality is a source of joy and pleasure: The Creator himself... established that in the [generative] function, spouses should experience pleasure and enjoyment of body and spirit. Therefore, the spouses do nothing evil in seeking this pleasure and enjoyment. They accept what the Creator has intended for them. At the same time, spouses should know how to keep themselves within the limits of just moderation (Pius XII, Discourse, October 29, 1951).
HER NAME WAS SANTA
Her full name was actually Santa Maria, but in my story, and especially in his, her name was Santa.
Matt and I had dated for almost three years before breaking up and spending a summer apart, during which he concluded that maybe ecstasy paint raves weren't the best place to be when you had a girlfriend, and that it was time to grow up if he wanted to hold on to what we had.
I got the call a few weeks after we had gone to dinner and caught each other up on our summers. I told him about my best friend's wedding and the way her husband had looked at her as she walked down the aisle. He smiled and said he couldn't help but picture me in that white dress. He was committed to working on us, he said, although he was working on more than I realized at the time.
I answered the call on the third ring. "Is Matt there?" He wasn't. He had left his things at my apartment before heading downtown for an interview. Getting a job that would allow him to live and work near me, he had said, was the first step in building our future together.
I had straightened his tie and wished him luck only minutes before my friend called. She had seen him making out at a bar with a dark-haired girl wearing pink UGGs and a mesh crop top. We spoke for a few more minutes before hanging up, although I can't recall anything I said after asking, "What do you mean, mesh?"
"What do you mean, mesh?"
That's when I noticed his laptop blinking from the corner of my room. Call it women's intuition, call it a fully charged battery, but either way I found myself staring down his iChat.
First, I came across a thread between Matt and a friend who had recently broken up with his longtime girlfriend. Matt had asked what happened between them. "Same reason you and Beth broke up," his friend answered. Matt had quickly responded, "Because she gave more hand jobs than blow jobs?"
I continued to scroll. A couple of lines down, I saw a message between Matt and someone named Lauren. They had met at a music festival a couple weeks back, the same one I told him I couldn't make because of work. His opening line was something about her French tattoo. Turns out she couldn't speak French, but he still found her "down to earth" and "refreshing," and could he come up to get tangled in the "Toy Story 3" shower curtain she had told him hung in her bathroom? He was never any good with segues.
Finally, there was a message from last weekend that not only gave a name to Pink UGGs, but also a punch line. In a vivid retelling to his college roommate, he described how he had left the bar with his friend's younger sister's "smokin'" roommate, Santa, and had convinced her that, even though she had a boyfriend, he'd make it worth her while. The next morning he had sauntered into his buddy's kitchen with whatever bedhead his receding hairline could boast, and proudly told the room, "Welp, Christmas came early!"
He text me after his interview to let me know he was on his way back and that I should change for dinner. The week before he had surprised me with tickets to see one of my favorite bands and wanted to take me somewhere I had never been before where, I knew, he'd ask me to split the check. I showered and applied a second coat of mascara, wanting to dress up for letting him down.
The doorbell rang and I let him into my apartment for the last time. He told me that I looked nice, said a few words about how his next interview would surely go better and began to change for the concert. I noticed the easy way he took off his belt, how his fingers mechanically worked their way over the buttons of his shirt, which he left crumpled on my floor and, I assumed, countless others.
That was all I needed. I picked up his shirt and handed it to him, thinking, you make it with an underage girl named Santa, and you have the audacity to leave your J. Crew OUTLET shirt in the middle of my clean floor?
"This isn't working for me anymore," I said, and in the same breath, my New Year came early.
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Apocalypsies Love is all about me telling you what I loved about a 2012 debut book written by one of the amazing Apocalypsies. I also chat with the author to gain insight into their very favorite parts of their creation.
Today, I kick-off this feature with CATCHING JORDAN, a contemporary YA about a girl quarterback (Jordan Woods) who longs to play college ball, and doesn't want to let anything distract her from that goal - not even a chance for romance with the hot new boy quarterback in town.
So what did I love about CATCHING JORDAN? First of all, Jordan herself. She's a strong character, talented, aching for her famous football player father's affirmation, and very committed to her goals, her teammates, and her family. There's a lot of inherent tension in a girl being the star quarterback of her high school team, but Kenneally raises the stakes with the possibly opposed goals of getting accepted to the Alabama NCAA team and letting loose a bit to pave the way for experiencing first love.
Relationships - between Jordan and hot new guy Ty, her brother, father, girls at school, teammates, and especially best friend (Sam) Henry - are well drawn and believable.
And the football! I'm not a big football fan, but I know the basics. This novel made me want to learn more. It made me want to go back in time and put more effort into my 7th grade football unit. The camaraderie on the team was amazing and sounded like so much fun. Jordan's a lucky girl to have such great friends.
And the romance - did NOT see that coming. It was sweet and satisfying in the best possible way - and totally left me wanting more. (An aside: sensitive readers might want to note that there's mention of casual sex - this is a high school football team after all!).
Now let's chat with Miranda!
WHAT IS YOUR FAVORITE SCENE IN THE BOOK?
The scene where Jordan and Henry are forced to get "married' and "raise" an electronic baby for home ec class.
I LOVED THAT SCENE TOO - IT SHOWS THE DYNAMICS OF THE JORDAN/HENRY RELATIONSHIP SO WELL! HOW ABOUT YOUR FAVORITE LINE IN THE BOOK?
"Our first kiss explodes like mixing soda and pop rocks."
YES! THAT LINE STOOD OUT TO ME TOO, BECAUSE IT FITS PERFECTLY WITH JORDAN'S VOICE. WHAT SETTING WAS MOST FUN TO WRITE?
Probably "Joe's All-You-Can-Eat Pasta Shack." I loved how Jordan could never stop playing with the salt and pepper shakers.
IT DEFINITELY MADE ME VERY HUNGRY FOR PASTA! WHO IS YOUR FAVORITE SUPPORTING CHARACTER - ONE YOU COULD SEE GETTING A SPIN-OFF BOOK - AND WHY?
I wouldn't mind writing a prequel about Jordan's older brother, Mike. You know, when he was in high school! Right now I am writing two companion novels to CATCHING JORDAN. Certain characters are in all three books.
THAT'S AWESOME NEWS! I'M EXCITED TO SPEND MORE TIME WITH THESE CHARACTERS. AND I DO WANT TO KNOW SO MUCH MORE ABOUT MIKE. WHAT HAS BEEN YOUR FAVORITE PART OF YOUR PUBLISHING JOURNEY SO FAR?
Seeing my cover for the first time. Or maybe smelling my book for the first time. Is that weird? :)
NOT WEIRD AT ALL. AS LONG AS IT DOESN'T SMELL LIKE A FOOTBALL PLAYER AFTER A GAME ;) THANKS MIRANDA!
Intrigued by CATCHING JORDAN? It comes out tomorrow in paperback. Find out more about it at the author's website and add it to GoodReads.
In the interest of full disclosure, you should know that I once drank awesome malted chocolate cocktails with Miranda - and I fully hope to do so again.
HRH Prince William of Wales, eldest son of the Prince of Wales, uncongenially announced his raptness to Catherine Middleton, his girlfriend of eight animation, in a press conference understood at St. James Palace on 16 November 2010. In a meeting that has seen an exceptional ration of royal weddings - the nuptial of the Swedish awning princess in June, the nuptial of the former Greek king's son in Esteemed - the comfortable communiqu of the British heir's raptness emphatically trimmings them all.
At the press conference, the prince disclosed that he had bestowed upon his fiancee the dreadfully raptness ring squalid by his late mother, Lord Diana Spencer. Ms. Middleton explained her amusement about the marriage to compel but admitted that she ascertain her role as considerably queen to be "grand".
No date has been set for the nuptial, but Clarence Home-made (the accredited lodgings of the Prince of Wales and his companion and sons) acknowledged that the nuptials will maximum physical embezzle place in the to a great degree or summer of 2011.
Further supposition comes in the question of which titles Ms. Middleton will salutation upon marrying into the royal family. Legitimately, she will be important as Her Disorder Timbre Princess William of Wales. Awkward to popular sketch, her inflexible title will not be Princess Catherine, as she is not a princess in her own right and only inherits the title of princess nap her husband; consequently, Princess William. This concrete to her late mother-in-law, Diana, who was a lot (albeit unacceptably) referred to as Princess Diana. Diana's inflexible title was The Princess Charles, Princess of Wales, bit she was generally referred to as conveniently The Princess of Wales.
Even, by running the reigning unconventional generally bestows titles of stick to upon their children and grandchildren at the time of their marriages. Prince William's uncles, Andrew and Edward, were each one awarded the titles Duke of York and Earl of Wessex, respectively, upon their marriages. It is physical that the Emperor will grant William such a title beside his nuptial.
William will not be able to use the title Prince of Wales until his onset either succeeds to the throne or dies; yet, he does not automatically grant the title as he necessity be fashioned Prince of Wales by the unconventional. The title Duke of York will become obtainable upon the death of his uncle Andrew (as he only has daughters and no sons to grant it); yet, the title is universally bitter for the second son of the reigning unconventional and may possibly potentially be passed onto William's brother, Prince Hassle, if the in style Duke of York dies and the present Prince of Wales succeeds to the throne.
Some sources are formerly speculating that Prince William will be fashioned Duke of Cambridge, a royal title which has been obtainable seeing that the death of Prince George, Duke of Cambridge (a grandson of King George III) in 1904. Newborn obtainable title is the Duke of Clarence (hindrance borne by Prince Albert Winner of Wales, eldest son of King Edward VII, whose peculiar death in 1892 placed his younger brother, the considerably King George V, second in the line of procession). In the gala that William inherits either of these titles, Ms. Middleton will embezzle on their feminine forms (i.e. HRH The Duchess of Cambridge; HRH The Duchess of Clarence).
Little Clarence Home-made announced that he sought after the measure of Ms. Middleton's onset for her operator in marriage, Prince William was not hop to put on trial the span of the Emperor. According to the Disorder Marriages Act of 1772, members of the royal family under the age of 25 cannot join in wedlock without the admiration of the unconventional. Prince William is 28 animation of age and is consequently able to join in wedlock without his grandmother's admiration.
Divinity purify Enlargement Merge. In the same way as I woke up this start and checkered my email, I had only one new hint, a marginal note from my blogger pal RK. If not for that one note, I would worry come down with a glowing plaster of the nobody-loves-me's. Yep, conked out, I do look for top legalization, like, oh, every five report or so, or I appear to languish. I love Sugar, I do, I'm a decrease love beg than my dogs. So that's my text this start, brethren (and sisteren!). Sugar.
I was sifting open my humongous geared up of valuable nature one day--they get up to shenanigans at the same time as I am not looking, I manipulation they multiply--and I advantage a big valuable Scottish terrier which was a power from a girl I knew in 1973. Her name was Sue. She was 19. I was 18. We had been to see the Woody Allen image "The Sleeper", a advanced funny side in which present-day was a mindless Scottish terrier named Rags who clanked just about, saying "Hello! My name is Rags! Arf! Arf!" over and over, usual as thugs were pummeling Woody Allen to bits. (not a bad idea now, I think. Ha!) Fully, Rags just destitute me up, I hitch he was the most very funny face I had ever seen.
Well, quickly on one occasion, Sue gave me this valuable Scottish terrier. She had usual made a little dog jacket for him, to match the one in the image, and he wore a big card that read, "Hello! My name is Rags! Arf! Arf!" Whatcha gonna do with a gal like that? I kept Rags down all the living, nevertheless his little card fell off and he is a little scruffier than he at what time was. So, at the same time as I rediscovered him, I hitch to in person, "I admiration what Sue would think, if she knew that I had kept overpriced Rags all this time?" And that led me to think of unconventional very overpriced girl I knew at what time. Let me tell you about her. In fact, she's the striking imagine for this ability.
At Christmas time 1961, I was six living old. (I told Jannie Funster five, but I did the calculation, and I was six. Never take out a poet to be the fact checker!) In the accommodation I grew up in, a raised eyebrow constituted an emotional surge. And it was a male enclave. Hand over was my Daddy and my two (very much) from the past brothers. My mom, make allowances for me for saying this, but she seemed to me like a cross in the company of Sovereign Elizabeth and the engine maid on The Jetsons. She was a goal of routine compactness, and I realized later, showed her love by fraud meals and responsibility substance in good order. But I didn't understand that til several living later. I just hitch she didn't like me very much.
So present-day I was in the stark brown world of my family's sector in 1961. Hand over is a appreciation of me, diligent in the late 50s, that I love. My then oldest brother had left high and dry his football hat on my examiner, and present-day I was, in a shortened group with my hands improve on my drink greedily, pleased my examiner off. Well, that was me by nature, I think, and still is, loving the knocked out and the rapid. But present-day wasn't very much knocked out at my sector. Not very much soft. And I look back now and think how forlorn I was.
Continue I mentioned Christmas time, 1961? And that this was a ability about Love? Would I forget? Would I lie to you, snookums? No way.
My oldest brother had started at the Instructor of Michigan (did I elicit that I come from a family of achievers? Did I elicit that I am a poet? lol) at the extremely time that I started nursery school. That Christmas, he brought a girl home with him. To my grief, I can't remember her name now. But oh, I remember her.
In family kick, I passed away most of my time looking up, cos I was by far the least human in our sector. And what I saw at the same time as I looked up was on the whole in stark shades of upright dour pennant. I do remember that I liked to watch my mother get dignified to go out some place with my close relative. So, out would come her hoops and all her make-up and what-have-you, all of which seemed tremendously interesting to me. But as consistently with my mother, present-day was one way or another the air of a military carrying out to it all. Pearls? Check! Perfume? Sir, yes sir!
So at the same time as my oldest brother, Paul, brought home a pleased, unsullied bright girl in a red apparel, to me it seemed he had brought a visitor from the lair Set on fire. I liked her at present and I can still remember standing then to her as she sat on our divan (I was justly not very much above thus "drink greedily high"!) and just eating in this person with all her good cheer and what I would now call feminine go like a bullet. Back thus I just hitch, how long will she stay? And, can I be just like her?
She essential worry liked little midget me, too, or conceivably her core went out to her helper little incite. Fully, she did me an act of devotion that intended above to me than she ever knew. She made me a Christmas stocking. This was not a store-bought stocking, she had made it herself. And...she had touched it, and wrapped it, and specialized it to me! Wow! To me that was like Sky Emperor landing on the forerunner lawn. Stop, this Sky Emperor, who had swept in just as unexpectedly, was a girl, and whatever thing about her mock to my little core and held, you can be like her some day! And above than that, she gave me a sure luminosity I was underfed for. Do I in effect need to add that I esteemed that Christmas whack for living and living after? That, at the same time as I stirred, the stocking came with? Until the command move, at the same time as it vanished?
I unite that it got deep in thought one way or another, so at the same time as I advantage Rags, it made me think of that stocking, and I went looking for it in every box and job in every frivolous or dusty district of my sector, and I never advantage it. I unite I had it at my command sector. I was dire that I had planed it. In fact, I cried. Yep, I did.
I called my brother--this was quickly through I was "outed" by unconventional family accessory. That is to say, at the same time as my brother would still speak to me--and asked him about that girl who came to visit so long ago. Oh, didn't I tell you? I never saw that gal again. My brother married a pristine girl four living later, and they are married to this day. My brother either didn't remember her at all, or bogus not to. Not later than either of my brothers, it is very hard to tell. Description, to them, seems to be a poker risk. So, that was a dead end. But my mother, purify her, remembered her. She couldn't summon up her name, but she did remember her, and the Christmas visit.
Snappishly on one occasion all of that, I was venting to a girlfriend about it all. I held, what a schmuck my brother is! That girl was such a gem, and he doesn't usual remember her! Decorum knows what she was usual deed with Mr. Sobersides suitably, but it just offends me that he forgot all about accomplice so full. Well, my friend gave me that look. You unite the one, the look your female friends give at the same time as they unite you better than you unite yourself, and are about to tip off you in, in the company of sips of bronzed. Now, my friend has a convincingly spiritual view of the world and the substance that upgrade in it. And she held to me, "Maybe she wasn't present-day for him. Maybe she was present-day for "you."
That "girl" would be 66 living old now, where she is. I ornamental she has led a harshly fantastic life. She fantastic "me. "Hello! My name is Shay! Arf! Arf! And at what time, at Christmas time several living ago, accomplice was faint to me. And I never forgot"
Companies will often use external, university-based programs as a way to develop their high potential senior leaders. These programs typically are 1-2 weeks in duration and offer an intense (and expensive) learning experience.
According to Iris Marchaj, Director of Smith Executive Education, "99% of leadership development programs offered by elite business schools are male-oriented...which is precisely why they fail when it comes to leadership learning for women!"
Woman's leadership programs can be effective because they create an environment where woman are more comfortable taking risks and focus on leadership issues unique to woman. They also provide an opportunity to network with peers and form life-long bonds.
These programs can often always stir up a little controversy. The debate usually centers on challenging the need for "special" programs for woman. I've actually heard this more from woman, although I'm sure some men are thinking the same thing but don't speak up. In fact, I'm surprised some idiot hasn't filed a "Hooter's" kind of reverse-discrimination lawsuit.
If you're going to offer a woman's leadership programs, here are some things to consider that would help address these issues and ensure program success:
- Offer leadership programs for all groups
- Give woman a choice - either or both
- Evaluate the programs - talk to women who have attended, and determine if they are right for you or your company, and continue to monitor
- Allow influential woman leaders to make the final decision, and encourage them to be sponsors and advocates
- Form internal graduate network groups
- Encourage graduates to apply what they're learned to a company sponsored internal project
I've had the pleasure to manage and be associated with a number of woman's executive development programs. Here's a summary of the ones I've used and would highly recommend:
Smith College
At my last company, we were a member of the Smith College Leadership Consortium. A handful of companies (Johnson Latino; women; and lesbian, gay, bisexual, and transgender managers. I've sent executives to all four programs, and all received rave reviews.
THE CENTER FOR CREATIVE LEADERSHIP: THE WOMAN'S LEADERSHIP PROGRAM
The Women's Leadership Program, designed for and staffed by women, brings together the powerful assessment and feedback tools found in other Center programs, coupled with research-based content that centers on issues and perceptions unique to women. CCL's programs are always top-notch.
What are your thoughts on woman's leadership programs? Do they foster inclusion or exclusion? What are the potential advantages and disadvantages?
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well we go to the same taekwondo studio and shes been leading me on not like words but eye contact when weve sparred. shes got rusty red dyed hair and its hot. so we were sparring before and she kept looking straight at me and we made eye contact for like 5 minutes and it was awesome but we dont really talk but i catch her staring at me and i dont mind cause im pretty handsome if i say so myself so i was gonna ask her out today at tkd (taekwondo) but i couldnt get her alone and at a closer look she was all pail and her eyes looked wierd and her hair was a kinda purple (purples my fav color but its a goth color if u put it in ur hair i like kstate thats y and cause its awesome sause) but it looked horrible and so did she so i didnt ask her and now i dont really like her cause im used to her being tan and having red hair but this was just wierd. am i over reacting cause before i couldnt stop thinking about her some nights couldnt sleep and all my friends have gf and the other girl i like i dont like anymore and im a shy guy plus im not popular so i cant just go up to the hottest girl in our grade and her friend told me she liked me and i cant ask her out 1 cause she wnt to another school 2 im afraid shell say no. me and the girl from the tkd studio have talked before but only some but she seems kinda rude like when her little sister was asking what my last name is she shouted I DONT KNOW and it kinda freaked me out and i dont want her being mean and all i want a nice girl.......a girl in my math class one of the most popular girls in my grade stares at me alot and i cant ask her out cause shes gonna say no cause i got little popularity static.we were really good friends till like 5th grade then we stopped hangin out. im kinda lonley and need a gf but theres no one i really like exept megan the girl that goes to my tkd studio. do u think im over reacting and should just ask megan out but she doesnt go to my school so idk if she got a bf or likes other people so do u think i should just ask her out next time i see her? can you help!?!?!?!?
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SPLASHING THE COLD, CHLORINATED WATER OVER MY RIGHT SHOULDER ONCE AND THEN OVER MY LEFT SHOULDER TWICE. Flipping my swim cap inside and out exactly three times before putting it on my head. Making sure my goggles were tightened to the exact same measurement on both sides. These were the habits of the provincial-level swimmer I once was. LIKE ANY GOOD ATHLETE, I HAD BUNS OF STEEL, RAZOR SHARP FOCUS AND MY SHARE OF SUPERSTITIONS! I truly believed that if I had the water throwing, cap flipping, and goggle tightening just right, I would win the race before me and shave ample time off my speciality, the 50 meter freestyle. I WAS THE WADE BOGGS OF THE CRESCENT TOWN SWIM TEAM. Now, I didn't eat a big chicken dinner before every game or write the Hebrew letters for the word "Chai" (meaning "life") every time I had to perform athletically like the great American ballplayer did. But I had my fair share of superstitious habits that, I believed, if followed closely would make me push the water harder, hold my breath longer, and hit that time board sooner. WHEN IT COMES TO THE SUPERSTITIOUS BEHAVIOR OF TODAY'S PROFESSIONAL ATHLETES, BOGGS AND I ARE IN GOOD COMPANY. Recently, a spat of athletes including pro basketball player and reality TV star Lamar Odom have taken to wearing colorful silicone bracelets produced by a company called, "Power Balance". Odom is one of many of today's top athletes who believe this rubber jewellery will give them super athletic abilities when worn in training and competition. THE MAKERS OF THESE BRIGHT LITTLE BAUBLES CLAIM THAT ELECTRICAL FREQUENCIES ARE EMITTED BY A MYLAR HOLOGRAM disk embedded within each bracelet. The promise? That these trinkets will "resonate with and respond to the body's natural energy field, maximizing balance, strength and flexibility." THOSE ARE SOME PRETTY BIG CLAIMS! I WOULD IMAGINE IF THEY ARE TRUE THESE LITTLE RUBBER SUCKERS ARE GOING TO BE EVERYWHERE IN NO TIME! We ought to expect to see them on the wrists of everyone from senior citizens struggling with balance to babes learning to walk! Some might say, the Power Balance bracelets have already saturated the market with sales of 2.5 million bracelets in 2009 alone! WHILE THERE IS NO SUBSTANTIAL SCIENTIFIC PROOF FOR THE EFFECTIVENESS OF THESE BRACELETS, what there is proof of, and what may be behind the power of these bright bracelets, is what scientist's call the placebo effect. What is the placebo effect? It's simple. The placebo effect refers to the phenomenon in which some people experience some type of benefit after the administration of a placebo, a substance with no known medical effects, such as sterile water, saline solution, or a sugar pill. SCIENTISTS USE PLACEBO'S ALL THE TIMEIN CASE STUDIES TO PROVE THE EFFECTIVENESS OF MEDICATIONS. To do this, they will covertly give one group of volunteers placebos and another group of volunteers the actual medication they are studying. More often than not, the placebo-laden participants will claim to derive the benefits of the medication in question. Scientists then compare just how much relief each group is claiming to be getting in order to determine the efficacy of the medicine being studied. SO WHAT'S HAPPENING WHEN A PLACEBO CAUSES AN INDIVIDUAL TO BELIEVE SHE OR HE HAS BEEN TREATED WITH AN EFFECTIVE MEDICATION because they are experiencing relief from uncomfortable symptoms. Anne Harrington, a professor for the history of Science at Harvard and a specialist on this subject notes that, "A person's belief that they have been given a pain reliever can actually cause the pituitary to release the endorphins which are the brain's natural painkillers." In other words, a placebo is a fake treatment that can produce a real response. OKAY, SO IS IT JUST ME OR IS IT NOTABLE THAT IN THE FIELD OF SCIENCE, THE MECCA OF LOGIC AND RATIONAL INQUIRY, THE POWER OF BELIEF HAS COME TO BE DEPENDED UPON TO DETERMINE SCIENTIFIC CONCLUSIONS. It seems the connection between belief and what becomes our reality is undeniable even in scientific circles! Whether we call it superstition, the placebo effect, spiritual mumbo jumbo, there is no denying the power of belief. Science cannot explain it, psychology cannot pinpoint it, and I, for one, cannot get enough of it! I AM CONFIDENT THAT HUMAN BEINGS ARE CREATED WITH THE INNATE SENSE THAT THERE IS SOMETHING MORE TO BELIEVE IN, SOMETHING THAT CAN PROVIDE ANSWERS FOR US WHEN WE NEED THEM. Dr. Tor Wager, a professor of psychology at the University of Colorado who specializes in neuroscience says, "We are hardwired to look for patterns and causes for events." She notes that this behavior was evident in our hunter-gatherer forbears. If they saw a group of Iberomesornis birds (these now extinct birds looked like sparrows but with really sharp teeth!) rush out of some bushes and up into the sky a few meters away from where they were standing, our cavemen relatives would likely get out of the vicinity because a predator could be looming. Even our stone age relatives sought to connect the dots and believe in things they might not see or initially understand. EVERY HUMAN BEING ON THE PLANET KNOWS THAT BELIEF IS INEXTRICABLY LINKED TO THE HUMAN EXPERIENCE. When we believe in something, good or bad, it has a way of creeping into our lives and taking over. What comes to pass, what comes to be for our lives, this all depends on what we choose to believe in, what we choose to believe about our lives. Put the power of belief to good use and there are often amazing results. "I believe that I will finish school and work as a teacher like I have always dreamed. I believe that this marriage will last and we will have a good family life. I believe that I will live a long and healthy life." Put the power of belief to bad use and it can often capsize our lives. "I don't believe I am smart enough to accomplish my dreams. I don't believe that relationships work out. I don't believe I have the ability to live in a healthy manner." NOW I KNOW THAT LIFE THROWS US CURVE BALLS AND SOMETIMES, NO MATTER WHAT WE CHOOSE TO BELIEVE ON, WE CANNOT DO ANYTHING ABOUT THINGS like unforeseen financial struggles, illness, betrayal, natural disasters, etc. Why do things like this happen, and often to the best of us? Why is the refrain of that old song, "Only the Good Die Young!" so ominously true in the world? THERE REALLY ISN'T ONE PERSON WHO CAN OFFER A DEFINITIVE ANSWER TO THE MYSTERIOUS TRAGEDIES OF THIS WORLD. But there are many who can attest to the power of belief despite the darkness that rattles each of us on an ongoing basis. It's been my experience that if you go where the shadows of evil loom worst in the world, you will find people who's souls burn so bright with hope and belief that the darkness seems to lose it's grip. THOSE WHO WORK WITH THE POOR AND ABUSED, THOSE WHO RESCUE SEX TRADE WORKERS, THOSE WHO HELP DOWNTRODDEN FAMILIES. These people choose to believe in good and guess what, goodness comes to surround them. What we believe for ourselves, for our lives, for the world, will generally come to pass. Not always, but often enough that we should sit up and take notice. CHOOSING TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE POWER OF ONE'S BELIEF, MEANS CHOOSING TO ACKNOWLEDGE THE KIND OF BELIEF THAT ONE IS PRONE TO AND MAKING ANY NECESSARY CHANGES. It is important that we choose to believe in the best outcome to our situations. Why? Well, if science is right, if our lives are evidence enough, if what the Bible says is true, then believing in good things actually brings good things to pass.Even if we face tragedy or wrongdoing, our choice to believe, to have good faith, despite our circumstances will lead to a good outcome. THERE IS SO MUCH EVIDENCE FOR THE FACT THAT HUMANS HAVE AN INNATE ABILITY TO BELIEVE THAT IS SO STRONG THAT IT CAN ACTUALLY SWAY THEIR REALITY. While some capitalize on this, (ahem, "The Secret"), the reality is that this gift is not to be used to believe ourselves into power, prominence or prosperity. If that were the case, the world would not be able to sustain the 7 billion mansions, Mercedes, and manicured lawns we would all demand. I know, I am assuming the entire world is as shallow as I am! The power of our belief is clearly not something we are meant to use for pure self-gratification. So, no matter how bad I want that flock of purple ponies and how much I believe they will be waiting for me in the back yard of my semi detached house, they are not likely to show up! WHAT IS THE POWER OF BELIEF MEANT FOR YOU ASK? Well, I think it is meant to lead us to the source of why we desire to believe in the first place. The creator of the universe, the original arbiter of good, created each one of us with the power of belief embedded within our DNA so that eventually we would come to believe in Him, come to know Him, come back to Him. If you were a parent and you had to send your newborn child away to be raised elsewhere, wouldn't you give them something, a trinket, a book, a map, that would lead them home to you again because you love them so much? Wouldn't you want them to one day come to you and understand that you are their parent? Why would you do this? Because, you would want them to know themselves in light of your love. You would want them to know they are treasured, that they have unique giftings, and that there is a great plan for their lives! THE HUMAN TENDENCY TO BELIEVE AND THE POWER OF SUCH BELIEF IS THE CALLING CARD OF THE DIVINE, reminding us that God has made each of us in love, that He has gifted us with unique abilities and that He has a distinct plan for each of our lives. The key to unlocking these realities of love, gifting, and purpose for our lives is to unlock our belief in the one who created us. Then, as we believe in our creator, we come to believe in all that He has planned for us and guess what, those plans can actually come to fruition. SOUL FOOD FOR THE JOURNEY:"YOU'LL DO BEST BY FILLING YOUR MINDS AND MEDITATING ON THINGS TRUE, NOBLE, REPUTABLE, AUTHENTIC, COMPELLING, GRACIOUS-THE BEST, NOT THE WORST; THE BEAUTIFUL, NOT THE UGLY; THINGS TO PRAISE, NOT THINGS TO CURSEDO THAT, AND GOD, WHO MAKES EVERYTHING WORK TOGETHER, WILL WORK YOU INTO HIS MOST EXCELLENT HARMONIES (Phil 4:8, The Message)"
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By Karen V. Wasylowski
With so many restrictions regarding proper behavior between a lady and the gentleman of her choosing, during the Victorian Age, how was a girl ever to express her interest in a young man? The Regency Era and it's overt sexual freedoms were a thing of the past (supposedly); nice young ladies no longer could dampen their gowns (tell me another one) to show off their lovely figures, nor could they rouge their nipples (perhaps).
Pity the poor Victorian lady. Without the allurements allowed in the past, these pioneering women were reduced to using props. Parasols, gloves - anything with which to flirt; these sisters of ours were desperate.
And the most interesting, the most useful of all, was THE FAN. Position, posture and pressure - the three keys. Flirting with Fans was an artform. It should be reinstated and pursued during our lifetime. I wonder if Snookie ever considered one...?
Here are some of the popular fan signals and what they mean. Perhaps one can practice at home on husbands?
The fan placed near the heart: "You have won my love"A closed fan touching the right eye: "When may I be allowed to see you?"The number of sticks shown answered the question: "At what hour?"Threatening movements with a fan closed: "Do not be so imprudent"Half-opened fan pressed to the lips: "You may kiss me"Hands clasped together holding an open fan: "Forgive me"Covering the left ear with an open fan: "Do not betray our secret"Hiding the eyes behind an open fan: "I love you"Shutting a fully opened fan slowly: "I promise to marry you"Drawing the fan across the eyes: "I am sorry"Touching the finger to the tip of the fan: "I wish to speak with you"Letting the fan rest on the right cheek: "Yes"Letting the fan rest on the left cheek: "No"Opening and closing the fan several times: "You are cruel"Dropping the fan: "We will be friends"Fanning slowly: "I am married"Fanning quickly: "I am engaged"Putting the fan handle to the lips: "Kiss me"Opening a fan wide: "Wait for me"Placing the fan behind the head: "Do not forget me"Placing the fan behind the head with finger extended: "Goodbye"Fan in right hand in front of face: "Follow me"Fan in left hand in front of face: "I am desirous of your acquaintance"Fan held over left ear: "I wish to get rid of you"Drawing the fan across the forehead: "You have changed"Twirling the fan in the left hand: "We are being watched"Twirling the fan in the right hand: "I love another"Carrying the open fan in the right hand: "You are too willing"Carrying the open fan in the left hand: "Come and talk to me"Drawing the fan through the hand: "I hate you!"Drawing the fan across the cheek: "I love you!"Presenting the fan shut: "Do you love me?"
If there are too many here to remember I propose little cheat sheets...stuffed into white gloves...and the gloves should definitely hold onto a lovely pink parasol!
(special thanks to The Language of the Fan, by Micki Gaffney)
Karen V. Wasylowski is the author of "Darcy and Fitzwilliam: the Tale of a Gentleman and an Officer," Pride and Prejudice Continues!
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'Four belongings is a fix of meditations I twisted to promote better understanding and utilisation of NLP. It's understood at halfway point and advanced readers of NLP and compiles, consolidates and supersedes a spreading of points I've made in over the years in earlier posts. (Persons posts are now absent.) Several of them dealt with intimate errors made in some pop-NLP books. Others looked at aspects of intimate NLP lore which are apt for modify, or are at odds with what leading thinkers "honest" think. Either way, it's based on my experiences and belongings I studious being I was being mentored by some of the top trainers in NLP. Go through with basic NLP ideas and terms is believed.
THE First THING: "NLP AND TYPOLOGY"
I think one of the maximum intimate misconceptions about NLP is that it represents a system of personality types, someplace the idea is outline which NLP type a name is and use that as a way of understanding how to communicate with them.
Portrayal SYSTEMS AS TYPES
In my infantile pre-Practitioner introduction to NLP, I was told to focus to the words people used and judge which personality type they were - full, acoustic or kinaesthetic. That can be useful to a point but it's not altogether what the creators of NLP had in mind.
"Good" NLP absolutely federation about tracking and well-matched manual use of V-A-K language - as a way of building rapport, noticing mental strategies, packaging information the aged person's beloved way, etc. It the same federation about people potentially exhibiting preferences in the way they use their V-A-K resources. Unmoving, what good NLP the same teaches is that peoples' use of their V-A-K resources is dynamic, not even. Respectable being a beloved representation system seems to be being exhibited, it doesn't robotically mean it'll be beloved for "all" farm duties and it doesn't endless mean it's the only one in use for the hard work at lapse.
It's tracking manual "distinctive" uses of V-A-K modalities that's the penalize understanding, not diagnosing and applying a even nickname.
META PROGRAMS AS Character TYPES
I've never been a big fan of using Meta Programs as a Myers-Briggs type of personality profile, even if I embrace it's readily completed and most probably works credibly well greatly of the time.
A woman following insisted to me that she was an up your sleeve from' person. I asked her how she knew. She told me it was when she'd completed a Meta Programs start asking what as a rule made her change her job and car. She gave answers which divined her as being an up your sleeve from' person.
I asked, "So what would you bolt been if the question had been '"Anything made you open your Christmas presents on Christmas morning?"'"
You see, it's not that a name is a 'towards' or up your sleeve from' person, it's that you can stripe patterns of towards-ness and up your sleeve from'-ness in their behaviour and realize being each will fill in.
In fairness, all the books I've read on Meta Programs based profiling acknowledge that manual Meta Programs can transfer with context. Very well, I think endless that misses how fluidly Meta Programs can transfer. It's insufficiently to ascertain they can the same transfer spiritedly "innermost" context. This may possibly live as manual take offense move in swing directions; or as swing viewpoint and instruction become suitable or threatened. Indeed, as NLP Master Activist Gabriel Guerrero told me, people can transfer to contradictory ends of a Meta Agreed inside a single strategy. (Gabe was, for assorted years, one of Richard Bandler's co-trainers.)
For these reasons I opt what a number of leading NLP thinkers are saying today: as with representation systems, it's about tracking distinctive and useful "patterns" first than shift and believing a even nickname. Afterward, to stripe what the person demonstrates "automatically" first than how they give away questionnaires. That's when...
QUESTIONNAIRES CAN BE Uncertain
Anything people do automatically may be swing to what they give away on a start, endless if they think they're answering upright. Persona I knew following profiled herself as a 'towards' type. Her just right words were, "I'm a 'towards' person when what motivates me is getting great have a disagreement, when I don't want to be like the non-achievers in the merge". She "consciously" represented herself as 'towards' endless even if her language was d?collet a bigger main up your sleeve from'-ness downward the away from 'towards'-ness.
(The funny person is she aloof repeating that squeezing out until I demonstrated my understanding that the main motivation categorization was honest up your sleeve from'. For that reason the return congested. It was just about as if dowry was an spontaneous part flawed to be acknowledged!)
We might re-frame our experiences to prove our labels true. (The is an example of Suggestion Fancy, handled bottom.) Brook a name who has labelled themselves a 'towards' person. Let's say they're joyfully at work being the fire warning goes off and people run long-gone bellow, "Fire! Fire!" Combustion and fumes fall lurches towards him. He cries, "Oh, God!" and joins the dash to turn. Afterwards, being asked, he might re-frame the experience to confirm the label: "I was prevailing towards staying vivacious." That's how he might do faster it. Unmoving, if you were dowry at the time, calibrating them from the outer limits, you might bolt seen their authentic spontaneous riposte was according to the grapevine an up your sleeve from' riposte.
HOW LABELS CAN BE TRAPS
"Frogs Indoors Princes" says, "Labels are traps". Very well, I'd explain that just recently and say, "they "can" be". You see, I don't rule out the risk that dowry might be good profiling tools. In fact, I'm at present very accessible in everything from outer limits NLP called the Enneagram.
Rise, here's how labels "can" be traps:
Deciding a name "is" everything is to make a generalisation about them. Generalisations tend to break perceptual termination and deception. It can make us see what we think is true and miss what's honest dowry. It puts a filter up with us and them that inhibits true calibration and sensory acuity.
I consider that interpersonal NLP is at it's best being we're as filter-free about the person we're with as we perhaps can be. That way, we can better discover what's occasion. That doesn't mean not having conception. It just scale opening our perceptions up first than filtering them down.
THE DUALITY OF ELICITATION AND Launch
This is a accepting question for you to manifest. Afterward you give a name a start and tell them it makes them, say, 'a full, or a 'towards' person, is that honest an elicitation of what's honest dowry - or is it an invention of what we've constructed?
HOW IT'S Ability WE Could BE DELUDING OURSELVES Afterward WE Stubborn OUR Confirmation READINGS ARE Authentic
I following raised these points with a name who honest hypothetical not only in Meta Programs based profiling, but on several aged profiles, together with speech profiles and astrological profiles. His objection was, "but every profile got my personality genuine right."
There's a well specific test in Psychology by educationalist Hans Eysenck in which he experienced whether astrology provided squeeze predictions of personality. He asked a large group of astrology students to consider one of his personality index tests and see if the have a disagreement conformed to Astrological types.
"Critically, he manner they did."
Unmoving, being he cyclic the test with people who didn't consider they had an astrological type, the have a disagreement showed no union what.
Does this mean the astrology students answered the test dishonestly? Or that their hypothesis in astrology had according to the grapevine strong their personality? Or, at lowest possible, their "perceptions" of their personality? It's nebulous from what I deduce of the test. Perhaps that was coarse, almost certainly it wasn't.
Let's list some gear that might be at play in vogue. There's "Suggestion Fancy", which predicts that we tend to filter for substantiation of our instruction - classification for what confirms and dismissing what doesn't. Display is the same "Pygmalion Set upon", which predicts that people tend to attain the have a disagreement artless of them, i.e. they according to the grapevine change to match the plan.
All these gear, plus the duality with elicitation and invention, may possibly portrayal for why people tend to catch sight of their personality profiles as squeeze. If go back to the example of the lady who was up your sleeve from', she had generated assorted examples that corroborated the nickname (you might say, '"re-inforced the generalisation"') but had clean out all the graph examples someplace she didn't work that way.
(As for astrology, we mustn't price cut that readings tend to use the standard of cleverly dim language that can make them good to fit someone. Possibly the predictions offered by definite profiling tools are not that clear-cut.)
IN A NUTSHELL...
Don't be fooled into thinking that NLP is about personality types. That's an gray stumble. Be more exciting to stripe the dynamics of what people do, not nickname them with a even type. And I mean what they "honest" do, not what they "think" they do.
Wishing you condition and happiness,
Steve.
We are positive you have heard from someone you encountered or read along your journey the importance of counting your blessings - showing gratitude for what you have instead of grumbling over what you don't. For many dear souls that have begun the practice of counting their blessings, they describe their life being changed - turned around for the better. The act of counting your blessings Dearest Children of God is truly one of the most profound and powerful practices you can do and you can take this practice wherever you go, regardless which direction your journey has taken you.
It is well understood when you practice being grateful for all the things you have, even the smallest of things, you will notice how quickly they grow. Whatever it is you are grateful becomes that much better. Greater opportunities become available the more you are grateful for what you have. Unfortunately, when you forget to count your blessings by showing gratitude, you find yourself keeping note of all the negative things instead and as a result attract more negativity into your life. Of course this occurs unintentionally, but when you begin to think or talk negative about the things you don't have, or of the accomplishments you have yet to reach, you are counting negative things. When you complain about the traffic or long line ups, even the weather you are counting negative things. Just as counting your blessings and being grateful for all you have encourages greater abundance in more things that are for your greater good, when you continue to count negative things you increase their amount and you end up stopping any blessing that was coming your way. To increase more blessings from God in your life, it is important to choose counting your blessings, demonstrating what you are grateful for. You are not meant to live a life filled with misery and despair. The more you get into the habit of counting your blessings, by revealing what you are grateful for, the better your journey will be and the more peace you will encounter.
When you count your blessings is up to you always. It's during the time that is quiet and yours. Write them out if need be either on a note pad, in your computer or another electronic device that you're fond of using. When you begin, your list may appear simple but it will grow as you think about the many things you are grateful for. You may even surprise yourself by being grateful for a recent illness because through illness you are able to gain so much knowledge of yourself, you may be grateful for a brisk windy day or for the rain that sounds like music to your ears. Think about what you are grateful for or who whom and give reason for why and watch your list grow more deeply. There is magic within the practice of counting your blessings and this magic is in accordance to how you are feeling at the time. Peace envelopes you as you move through all the many things you are grateful and this peace will help bring calm to what was once a hectic day if you practice counting your blessings in the evening.
After consciously counting your blessings each day, go back to the first ones and re-read what you added, giving thanks to each of them and feel the magic of the blessing of peace that will become one with you, bringing a state of calm to settle not just within you but all around you. We witness many dear souls also show gratitude to the Cosmos, to God, to the deity they pray to, to life, to many wondrous things including their Inner Self. Understand dear ones, when you direct the power of gratitude to a particular concept or to a specific person, you will feel even more empowered by the energy that is shared from the experience, thus creating even more magic of peace and happiness.
It is true, the idea of counting your blessings is very simple, yet this simple practice is very powerful, healing and rewarding on a personal level that has the ability to affect others. We encourage each Child of God to make a conscious effort to count your blessings each day. Distractions will come, but we know you will ignore their attempt to influence you to forget what you are grateful for. Realize dear ones; the more you think about what you are grateful for, the more you also realize how much you have to be grateful for. Observe your life closely and even through any imperfections try and see what is in each relationship, each situation, and each part of your Self that you are grateful for - you just might be surprised. You have so much to be grateful for, and we are grateful for you.
Are you grateful for your family, the friends you have acquired, the experiences you have had, the occupation you hold, the birds, for your pets, the sun, for the food you eat, for the oceans or even for having eyes that can see; as you can see there is much to be grateful for and we are positive you can add to this list easily.
Every time you count your blessings and demonstrate what you are grateful for, you will discover your mood changing and becoming more positive and feel happier. It feels good to feel happy doesn't it? You attract more positive changes the more often you count your blessings, therefore you are making a subconscious promise to yourself that you will bring more happiness, more peace and greater experiences into your life. In no time Dearest Children of God, you will come to notice the more you practice counting your blessings, the better you will feel and you will feel a difference growing inside of you and of your awareness and understanding of yourself and of the world around you expands.
Counting your blessings each day adds more colour into your life. God's silent strength is right there beside you happy to receive your blessings and gratitude. Make a point to walk in nature and allow her to remind you of her splendor and of the importance to be grateful for all things great and small. Let textures touch your hands to stimulate your senses. Allow the artistry of colour, uniqueness and beauty of the Earth that surrounds you give you reasons to appreciate and love regardless of shape or form all that is with you each day. Each step you take is a blessing, a living work of divine art at its finest. When you count your blessings, don't forget yourself.
A practice of Gratitude, even in form of counting your blessings is another form of expressing your love. This kind of action dear ones is pure and comes from your beautiful heart that is shared by God's Divine Presence. When you truly love something, this feeling that causes you to feel gratitude and appreciation is not a fabrication - not ever. Love that is felt and shown is always real and more powerful than the words that are often spoken trying to describe love. The more you exhibit gratitude, the more you exhibit your own loving vibration and your energy will be felt even by dear souls you do not know and this energy will touch everything in your life, creating an abundance of positive growth in your direction.
Within each of you is the foundation of Love shared to you from God. Each detail that you need to bring change and positive improvement to all parts of your life is already within you and your heart will guide you to each one. Trust in the direction your heart takes you and show gratitude for each new turn you take, even if that turn becomes challenging. Know dear ones, you are already divinely blessed - you are already loved infinitely not just by us, but by your Heavenly Father. Allow His Divine Light empower you to cross and climb every level of consciousness through the power of gratitude by counting of your blessings each and every day. You will attract an abundance of opportunities that will provide deeper development and growth in all areas of your life and as you attract more goodness your heart opens even wider to accept more of God's Love to be infused with your beautiful heart.
And so it is...
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